Why don’t black men date/marry more black women? Why are black men marrying white women at a rate of 32% in California? And why won’t black women branch of into dating other races as willingly as their male counterparts? The subject came up on Facebook and got pretty intense. I felt everybody needs to hear what I said about it.
Black women are goddesses. And I really can’t see why a black man would want anything less. Yes I said less. Black women have been raped, devalued, and neglected as a whole since the first slave ship crossed the Atlantic. And the black men who were their kings and princes have consistently rewarded their loyalty with more neglect and indifference. The strength it must take to watch your husbands, fathers, brothers, and sons humiliated and stripped of their glory and still see the god that dwells in them; still give their life for that man’s seed after he leaves her for a lighter, more “beautiful” woman.
Why do black men go for non-black women? Because they are conditioned to think that “white is right”. And because they will never be white, no matter how hard they try, the next best thing is to go out and get a white woman. Or as close to white as they can get.
So the black woman who slept with the white slave master to save her husband is abandoned by her king when the white slave master tells the black man his wife is a whore. The black man is told that his blackness is evil, that he is not “good”. And without realizing it, he begins to glorify white beauty. Once free, he does not look to rebuild the kingdom that was taken from him, rather he looks to emulate his oppressors. He forsakes the women who gave their lives to protect him. And he runs off with the closest thing to a white girl he can find.
THAT’S the problem. That black men still believe the lie that there is something wrong with their women. And that our woman are SO loyal that they die alone, raising more black men who never truly understand or appreciate the value of a black woman.
Is there anything wrong with interracial dating? No. you can’t choose who you fall in love with. The fact that people [mostly black men] TRY to choose is a problem. So while their mothers and daughters complain about not being able to get a “good black man”, that good black man goes and gets himself a white girl. This in turn sends the message that they, the black mothers who raised him and the black daughters he fathered, are not what he wants or values. By actively seeking non-black, he says to his mothers and daughters that they are not good enough.
Read Malcolm X’s autobiography… he makes it pretty clear. Hell, save yourself some time and watch the movie. Watch how Malcolm does Laura. Even HE realizes the effects his choice to take white over black.
Anyways I’m DEFINITELY beyond rambling now… and I could KEEP going. But I’ll end with this sentiment.
If black is not good enough to marry, then you don’t deserve black as a mother or a daughter.